Men breakfast and ladies lunch?

Is that the way of the world?

I’m asking as I’ve been challenged to organise a women’s fellowship at St Margaret’s where there has been for a number of years a men’s breakfast prayer meeting. This got me thinking. Men’s prayer breakfasts are two a penny. It seems to be the Thing That Men Do, perhaps some unwritten rule that they can only tear down the limiting walls of masculinity to become vulnerable Christians before 9am. Lots of churches also have ladies’ lunches during the day in one guise or another. And we have home groups that are for couples during the evening.

 So where does that leave women that work? How many churches have a career-woman-friendly opportunity to meet with just other women? Not exclusively those who work, but just other grown up women. Some may come as an offshoot of friendships formed in home groups, I suppose. But is the assumption still that we as good Christian women are at home looking after our kids and so we’re free during the working week to meet?

In the landscape of my life a City women’s group would be awesome. What challenges does being a Christian woman in the City pose? Are they different from men’s? How do you juggle life and work? Who do we look to for fellowship and support?  Those are just my questions for starters.

Is breakfast the right time for this? Will what works for the men work for the women or will we need to find another way of working? How much of my reluctance to meet at 8.00am stems from not relishing the thought of a 5.30am start again? (Quite a lot, if I am honest).

Where is the bounday between a tight-knit, supportive, prayerful fellowship and an exclusive clique? Can I trust God that if we start this thing, the right people in the right places will respond, and we won’t be leaving anyone on the faith-destroying fringes?


  1. I found this post from a link on another blog and i know it’s a couple of years old but it’s still so true! I was looking at the website of a church a friend attends the other week and they were advertising their men’s/women’s groups. The men’s group was on a Saturday morning while the women’s group was on a weekday afternoon when as you say, any woman who has a job would not be able to attend. My own church tends to have events at weekends and evenings which I’m really thankful for. A group for working women would be a great idea!

    • Anything that happens at my church in the evening is timed for the old folk or those with kids (i.e. 7.30pm) – I’m rarely home by then! So I guess there isn’t a good answer – unless I move back to a city…!

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